Awhile back I had a coach who encouraged me to
invoke the person I wanted to become. When we have an evolutionary
perspective of who we are we get that we are always present and we
are always becoming. It's the becoming part of us that desires
growth, and is aligned to change, that craves learning.
By invoking who we want to become we get clear in
what needs to change to make that happen. We attune our internal
radar to actualizing our growth potential. Then, tuning into the
radar like a radio signal, we start acting like the person we want
to become. Before we know it, we are that person. As evolution is a
moving target, then we repeat the process again. To jumpstart the
exercise, I recorded a short audio and created a handout
you. Below are simply the cliff notes. The benefit is in the audio
and the worksheet
Start acting like the person you want to become:
Invoke the person you want to be.
Develop the habits this person would
Have the conversations that person would
The person you want to become you can presence right now. You
and your future self co-exist simultaneously. Use this power you
have in your awareness.
Your daily habits determine your future. Your daily habits are
the best indicator of your future. Are your daily habits lined up
with the person you want to become? If not, it's out of reach. If
so, fine tune and adjust. Your habits determine who
you are becoming.
Your conversations influence your thoughts.
The vibrations of the conversation you are taking in,
determine the vibrations of your thoughts, which determine your
actions, which determine which habits you have, which
determines how you show up in the world. You need to chose your
Our conversations determine our reality.
We either have articulated or unspoken agreements in our core
relationships. If the agreements are unspoken, they can quickly
become outdated. If we’re operating on outdated, unspoken
agreements the relationship isn't as dynamic, inspired,
evolutionary, supportive, or connective as it could/should be. When
you take the time to step back, and consciously update your
relationship agreements, you redefine your life, based on your
Invoke who you want to become.
What does this mean to you right now?
What relationships are going to help stabilize the
reality that you want?
If our relationships are toxin free, we're a very
awake, very dynamic, very fluid person. This is the potential. If
our relationships are outdated and not in line with what supports
the future self we want to be, we're in a world of hurt. We need to
get clear and take action to find support for the person we want to
become. Otherwise, it won't happen. Do this exercise and you'll get
clear on how to do this.
Having new habits means having new habits in many sectors in your
life. Ask the future self you want to become what needs to shift in
the following domains:
Get clear. Listen. Be curious.