Aug 21, 2017
On today's show is HeatherAsh
Amara, the author of the the best-seller Warrior Goddess
Training, the
The Warrior Goddess
Way, and
The Toltec Path of
Transformation: Embracing the Four Elements of
Change. She is
dedicated to inspiring depth, creativity, and joy by sharing the
most potent tools from a variety of world traditions. In our
conversation today, we dive heavily into feminine leadership, into
women and trauma and history, into judgment, judgment of others,
and self-judgment, and into what's starting to happen in the realm
of collective leadership. Stay tuned for HeatherAsh
Amara!
I rap with HeatherAsh Amara about the history of
women:
- The
disconnect between the freedoms women legally have in our society
and the way we feel and are treated because of our
history
- Why
we, as women, think other people's desires are more important than
ours
- Why
we compare ourselves to other women
What you’ll get out of tuning in:
- Why
we sometimes get caught in spiritual judgment, and how to step out
of it
- How
to truly befriend your body, mind, and spirit
- When
to shed fears of exposure and step into leadership
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Show Highlights:
- 2:55
- In order to slow down and tap into your desires, you must have a
practice that gives you tools to start coming back into yourself,
and shift away from trying to be something else.
- 10:00
- From an early age, we are taught to compare ourselves to other
women, and to be judgmental of them. By recognizing when we are
doing this, and redirecting our thoughts with compassion for
ourselves and for the other woman, we can take steps to heal
ourselves and our future generations of this pattern.
- 14:00
- There are three things you can do to get in touch with the Self
and live a more easeful, happy life:
- Desire: Do more of the things you
love!
- Cleanse: With compassion, ask yourself what you
are believing that isn't true. Then clean up the old behavior,
change it, and start living in a new, more conscious
way.
- Silence: Consciously bring more stillness into
your life.
- 16:55
- Don't apologize unless you're actually sorry! Too many of us say
'sorry' more than we should, and this word undermines our
confidence and self-worth.
- 23:20
- HeatherAsh shares two main psychological reasons women don't want
to step into leadership roles:
- The
dominant paradigm of leadership is that the leader has power over
someone else and oppresses the other person. But leadership doesn't
have to be that way, and in fact, the most effective leaders are
co-collaborators!
- Stepping into leadership makes a person, and
especially a woman, much more vulnerable. Our ancestral patterns
tell us it isn't safe to be so exposed.
But women are absolutely needed
in leadership roles, and we should step into them past the fear of
being exposed, in a collaborative and co-creative way.
- 35:00
-Instead of separating ourselves from other people and other
groups, we should respect our diversity and celebrate our
interconnectedness.
Favorite Quotes:
- "Desire is super intelligent! You want to pay
attention to that stuff!" - Cate Stillman
- "The
world is so busy, there's so much going on, that if you're not
paying attention, you can look up and ten years has passed." -
HeatherAsh Amara
- "Who
am I now, and who do I want to be next?" - Cate
Stillman
- "While we have tremendous external freedoms, we
don't have the same internal freedom." - HeatherAsh
Amara
- "We
all need more stillness in our lives." - HeatherAsh
Amara
- "More
of us need to be willing to step into leadership. We're needed! Our
voice, our experience, our perspective, is so, so needed." -
HeatherAsh
- "We
don't serve anyone around us when we stay small and safe." -
HeatherAsh Amara
BIO:
HeatherAsh Amara is the author
of the bestselling Warrior Goddess
Training,
The Warrior Goddess
Way, and
The Toltec Path of
Transformation. She is
dedicated to inspiring depth, creativity, and joy by sharing the
most potent tools from a variety of world traditions. HeatherAsh
studied and taught extensively with don Miguel Ruiz, author
of The Four
Agreements, and
continues to teach with the Ruiz family. Raised in Southeast Asia,
HeatherAsh has traveled the world from childhood and is continually
inspired by the diversity and beauty of human expression and
experience. She brings this open-hearted, inclusive worldview to
her writings and teachings, which are a rich blend of Toltec
wisdom, European shamanism, Buddhism, and Native American
ceremony.